The mitzvah of tochachah, administering rebuke to a fellow Jew who is erring, has two criteria that should be met. Indeed, if these two conditions are not met, it is better that one does not rebuke. First and foremost is l’shem Shomayim: He must be acting for the sake of Heaven. He has no ulterior motives; he does not hate the sinner; he simply cannot tolerate to see Hashem’s Torah denigrated: He cares for his fellow-Jew who probably does not realize the seriousness of his actions. He speaks from the heart, out of love and caring. His words will thus…
