Refusing to be comforted is understandable. When a person sustains a tragedy (regardless of the circumstances, the age, or the well-being of the deceased, it is still a tragedy – to someone) it is personal; it is painful; the loss feels like an endless void which cannot be filled with words alone. This is especially true when the mourner had been especially close with the deceased. Accepting comfort may feel like a step towards moving on or letting go – something the mourner refuses to entertain. Others may feel guilt over the death of a loved one, wondering if they…

In the brachos, blessings, which Moshe Rabbeinu conferred upon the various shevatim, tribes of Klal Yisrael, Reuven’s blessing is juxtaposed upon Yehudah’s blessing. Chazal (Bava Kamma 91A) explain that, during all the forty years that the Jews journeyed in the wilderness, the bones of Yehudah, which the nation took with them to be interred in the Holy Land, were rolling around in the coffin. Moshe came and asked Hashem for mercy on Yehudah’s behalf. He said, “Yehudah was the impetus for Reuven to confess to his sin/error concerning his tampering with his father’s bed.” When Reuven saw that Yehudah made…

Chazal (Yoma 35:13) teach that, if a wicked person (his neshamah, soul) comes before the Heavenly Tribunal and is asked, “Why did you not engage in Torah study?” and he replies, “I was handsome and preoccupied with my evil inclination,” we reply to him, “Were you any more handsome than Yosef who did not neglect Torah, despite his beauty?” Chazal go on to describe Potifar’s wife’s various machinations to entice Yosef to be with her. He rejected it all because of his abiding devotion to Hashem. This may be good and well, but Chazal (Sotah 36B) add something to the…

The numerical value of garti equals taryag, 613.  Chazal teach that Yaakov Avinu implied to Eisav, “Although I was with Lavan for some time, I remained loyal to Hashem and observed all 613 mitzvos.  I have not changed one iota.  I am as committed today as I was when I left home.”  Eisav should not have thought that he could prevail over Yaakov.  The Patriarch’s merits will still protect him. Yaakov then added, Va’yehi li shor v’chamor; “I have an ox and a donkey.” Understandably, Yaakov was not informing Eisav of his material assets; rather, as the commentators explain, shor…

Rashi explains that Yaakov was frightened that he would be killed, and he was distressed that, in his efforts to protect his family, he might kill acheirim, others.  What did Yaakov fear?  He had every reason to defend himself against Eisav. The Melei HaOmer explains that Yaakov purchased the firstborn birthright from Eisav for the express purpose that the avodah, service, in the Bais HaMikdash would be conducted by bechorim, firstborn, and he would be a b’chor.  However, if he would kill Eisav – even by right – he could no longer serve.  A Kohen that kills someone, even b’shogeig,…

Yaakov Avinu sent everyone away, until he was left alone to wrestle with Eisav’s angel.  Concerning our Patriarch’s isolated state, Chazal (Midrash Rabbah) cite a pasuk in Yeshayah 2:17, V’nisgav Hashem levado, “And Hashem alone will be exalted on that day.” The Navi addresses the day of retribution, when the great nations of the world will be humbled in Hashem’s Presence.  He alone will be exalted, as all those who thought they were high and mighty will be compelled to confront the stark truth:  they are not.  We must endeavor to understand the parallel between the two levados: Yaakov isolated…

Among the reasons which Chazal (Bereishis Rabbah 82:13) present for Eisav’s moving on, separating himself from Yaakov, is that he left in humiliation over having sold his bechorah, firstborn birthright.  Horav Gershon Liebman, zl (Rosh Yeshivah, Novarodok in Armentieres, France, notes that we are raised with a skewed perspective of Eisav, the man We know him as being evil to both G-d and man.  We fail to take into consideration, however, that Eisav’s behavior not withstanding, we may not ignore that he was Yitzchok Avinu’s son and Avraham Avinu’s grandson.  He spent his formative years in the home of his…

The name Luz denotes the principle of eternity. Chazal (Vayikra Rabbah 18) teach that there is a certain tiny bone within the human body that does not decompose. It is from this indestructible bone that Hashem will resurrect the dead. HoRav Mordecahi Ilan, zl, explains the background, the name change from the original Luz to Bais-El (Beth-El). Until Yaakov Avinu emerged on the scene, people thought that the way to ensure continuity is through the establishment of community, etc. Thus, they named the city Luz, because its name representes endurance and perseverance. Our Patriarch changed the city’s name to Bais…

Rashi explains that Leah Imeinu wept copious tears in prayer to Hashem that she not have to marry Eisav. People would say that Rivkah Imeinu had two sons and her brother, Lavan, had two daughters. It made sense that the older daughter, Leah, would wed the older son, Eisav; and the younger daughter, Rachel, would marry Yaakov. The prospect of having to spend the rest of her life with the evil Eisav is enough to make anyone cry. As a result, Leah’s eyes became tender. Targum Onkelos interprets rackos as ya’in, beauty. Was Rashi unaware of Onkelos’ commentary? Furthermore, Chazal…

Now, as a mother of one-third of Yaakov Avinu’s twelve sons, Leah paid gratitude to Hashem, because He granted her more than her rightful share. Much has been written about gratitude per se, specifically in interpreting and explaining Leah Imeinu’s gratitude. This is especially critical in light of Chazal’s statement (Berachos 7B), “From the day the world was created, there was no one who paid gratitude to Hashem, until Leah came and thanked Him.” The questions are obvious: How can Chazal suggest that the Avos Hakedoshim, holy Patriarchs, did not thank Hashem? This question is especially pressing when we take…

They both prayed.  Rivkah Imeinu prayed on her own behalf.  Yitzchak Avinu also prayed on her behalf.  He knew that, as part of Hashem’s promise to Avraham Avinu, he would be blessed with progeny.  He entreated Hashem that Rivkah should be the mother of his children.  Twenty years is a long time to pray for something.  Apparently, they were prepared to continue praying until Rivkah conceived and gave birth to a healthy child. It was not just about having a child, but rather, they sought to serve as a link in the Patriarchal continuum which laid the foundation of the…

Both Yitzchak Avinu and RIvkah Imeinu prayed fervently for a child.  The Kaf HaChaim (281:8) cites the Sefer Chesed LaAlafim who states: “We have a kabbalah, tradition, handed down from Rav Yehudah HaChasid who taught that when one is confronted with a difficult challenge, committing to recite the Nishmas prayer (we recite Nishmas on Shabbos and Yom Tov at the end of Pesukei D’Zimra.  We also recite it at the end of the Pesach seder) in the presence of a minyan is a segulah for deliverance.  The tefillah is attributed to Rav Elazar Azkari, who lived in Tzfas during the…

Horav Yaakov Moshe Charlop, zl, explains the imagery of Yaakov Avinu holding onto Eisav’s heel as a metaphor that underscores the concept of limitation and restraint. A vicious dog chained to a stationary place cannot go beyond the pull of his chain.  He can bark and growl and attack anything that comes within the parameter of his chain, but that is it.  He is locked in place.  Veritably, it often appears that Eisav is on top; he is first.  Despite Eisav’s precedence in birth order, which grants him certain parameters of strength, Yaakov continues to hold on to his heel. …

On the surface, to the uneducated reader, the story of Yaakov Avinu purchasing the bechorah, birthright, from Eisav seems highly enigmatic.  Horav David Povarsky, zl, compares it to a shrewd man who saw a young child playing with a bag of diamonds. The man offered to give the young boy a bag of chocolates in exchange for the diamonds.  The boy jumped at the idea and readily made the trade.  Clearly, we would look askance at such a person.  How could he have the temerity to take such advantage of an unknowing child?  Eisav was clueless concerning the value of…

In his hesped, eulogy, of Horav Meir Chadash zl, Horav Elazar M. Shach, zl, quoted the words of the Midrash, Va’yavo, And Avraham came- Where did he come from? Rabbi Levi said, ‘He came from the grave of his father, Terach, (He had attended to his father’s burial) Rabbi Yosi asks “But Terach died two years before Sarah? (How could you say that he came from Terach’s funeral?) Thus, we must say that he came from Har Ha’Moriah (from Akeidas Yitzchak)”. On the surface there is no way to reconcile these two diverse opinions. Two years is a time difference that cannot…

Harov Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, zl, relates a debate that took place between a modern, progressive thinking Jew and a traditional member of the community. Clearly, a deep contrast existed between the divergent outlooks on Jewish life and living that guided these two men. The forward thinking (as he regarded himself) wondered why, when Eliezer sought a wife for Yitzchak Avinu, a woman who would one day be the next Matriarch, he did not look for yichus, pedigree, nor was he concerned whether she used electricity on Shabbos, (There is a serious debate among the poskim whether one is prohibited from…

The Torah informs us that Avraham remarried Hagar. The word Va’yosef, he proceeded, also means that he added. The Sefas Emes interprets this as an allusion that teaches us the importance of tosfos Shabbos, adding on to Shabbos, i.e. beginning Shabbos earlier and extending it past the set time. The Pnei Menachem zl explains that prior to Shabbos (Friday) and after Shabbos (Sunday) there are klipos, “shells” (metaphysical barriers between ourselves and the light of the Creator.) Which represent evil or impure forces. They are the klipah of Yishmael which is on Friday (their day of rest) and the klipah…

Daas Zekeinim m’Baalei Tosfos wondered how Avraham Avinu bypassed Yishmael and bequeathed all his possessions to Yitzchak Avinu. Yishmael was his son, perhaps one that did not engender much pride in Avraham, but his son nonetheless. Chazal (Kesubos 53A) teaches that one may not give to one child over another-even if the other son is of ill repute, because one does not know what offspring will descend from him. Avraham adhered to the entire Torah; he should have observed the laws of inheritance. They reply that Avraham and Yishmael were gerim, converts. Chazal (Kiddushin 1813) teach that a convert does…

In Judasim, mesiras nefesh, self-sacrifice is about aligning one’s life with Hashem’s will, even at great personal cost.  One must be prepared to go as far as making the ultimate sacrifice in order to demonstrate his consummate dedication to Torah and mitzvos.  The rosh ha’maaminim, head of the faithful, Avraham Avinu, demonstrated his unequivocal conviction throughout his life.  It reached its crescendo during Akeidas Yitzchak, the Binding of Yitzchak, when the Patriarch acquiesced to sacrificing his only beloved son and successor, Yitzchak Avinu. Someone who is studying Chumash for the first time may wonder: What is all the great to-do…

Avraham Avinu withstood the ten nisyonos, trials, with which Hashem tested him.  What is so special about these trials that the Torah makes note to elaborate on them?  Just about every one of them is recorded in the Torah, with the nisayon of the Akeidas Yitzchak achieving special prominence.  Our Torah is neither a history book, nor does it relate stories needlessly.  Every letter in the Torah is present for a profound reason.  What is the Torah’s message with the redacting of these trials?  Furthermore, why is it only with regard to Avraham Avinu that the Torah calls attention to…

The Torah relates that, on the third day of Avraham and Yitzchak’s journey, they saw the “place” from afar.  Rashi explains that he saw anan kashur al ha’har, “a cloud affixed on the mountain.”  The cloud that was above the mountain was a cloud accompanying the Shechinah.  Chazal teach (Bereishis Rabbah 56:1), “Avraham said to Yitzchak, ‘My son, what do you see? Do you see what I see?’  Yitzchak answered, ‘Yes.’  Avraham then asked his two aides (Yishmael and Eliezer), ‘Do you see what I see?’  When they replied, ‘No,’ he said, ‘Since the donkey does not see and you…

We wonder what is the meaning of the words, Atah Yaadati, “Now I know (that you fear G-d)?  Did we ever harbor any doubt concerning Avraham Avinu’s fear of Hashem?  He was the consummate oved Hashem, servant of Hashem.  Certainly, his yiraas Shomayim, fear of Heaven, was unparalleled.  Imrei Noam (Bereishis 32B) quotes the Gaon, zl, m’Vilna who explains that a person achieves spiritual perfection only if he must deal with two incompatible, incongruous character traits.  For example, the heart of someone who is by nature the paragon of lovingkindness overflows with love for his fellow.  No activity is too…

Chazal (Pirkei Avos 5:4) teach that Avraham Avinu earned his distinction by successfully passing ten trials.  The first trial which the Torah elaborates, tested his ability to pick himself up, bid farewell to family and friends, and journey to a new land. Hashem was requiring him to start over and set up a new infrastructure for his outreach work.  No one will suggest that moving is not difficult, especially if one has spent his entire life in a particular place.  Leaving family and friends is equally challenging – for some more than others.  Nonetheless, why does the Torah make such…

In an alternative explanation of these three terms, Rashi writes: “I will make you into a great nation.” This is a reference to what we say (in the Shemoneh Esrai), Elokei Avraham; ‘and I will bless you,’ this is a reference to that which we say, Elokai Yitzchak; ‘and I will make your name great.’ This is a reference to that which we say, Elokai Yaakov.  Since all three Avos, Patriarchs, are mentioned in the first b’racha of Shemoneh Esrai, one might think that the chasimas ha’brachah, conclusion of the blessing, should include all of them. Ve’heyei b’rachah, ‘and you…

Rashi explains that the word “souls” refers to those whom they converted to faith in Hashem.  Noticeably, the Hebrew word, nefesh, which is singular, is used to describe the souls, rather than nefashos, which is plural. In his commentary to Bereishis 46:27, where the Torah details the sixty-six souls that accompanied Yaakov Avinu as he descended to Egypt, Rashi quotes Vayikra Rabbah 4:6 where Chazal distinguish between plural nefashos used to describe Eisav’s family (ibid. 36:6) and Yaakov who ultimately entered Egypt with seventy nefesh.  They explain that Eisav’s sons are considered separate souls because they worshipped many gods.  Yaakov’s…